DO YOU WANT TO BE A MILLIONAIRE?
Updated: Nov 5
I recently had a family member tell me "Don't work so hard. It's not like you're going to become a millionaire."
I was taken back by the statement. There I was, sitting in my car, family member on Bluetooth, and I quickly looked around and turned down the volume a little bit. A man walking down the side walk glanced in my direction. "Did he hear that? I'm so embarrassed." I thought. I shouldn't have been. I had done nothing wrong, but somehow I internalized that statement and began to gaslight myself. Was I trying too hard? Was all the work I've been putting in for nothing? Am I in the wrong lane? Am I out of line for dreaming this big? I felt small.
The truth is, that family members statement (while it might have been directed at me) had nothing to do with me. It had everything to do with what the other person was projecting. So why was I so hurt by it? Well...
I wanted their approval.
It suddenly felt like I didn't have their support.
Their opinion matters.
I want them to be proud of me.
In my mind their lack of belief in me, equates to a lack of love for me.
Now to be completely fair, I understand fully that this family member meant well. I know I'm loved unconditionally, I know they are proud, and I know I have their support. The message was meant for me to take care of myself, they don't want me burning myself into the ground, and that they want me to find a healthy balance between life and work. They never had one for themselves, they want better for me. Their intent was pure. The delivery sucked.
So here was my only solution...
When the dust had settled and I was done pouting over my bruised feelings, I had to go back to my why. I have been in business most of my adult life. My why always overrides everything. My "why" is to share my story, to let people know they aren't alone, and to help as many as I can along the way.
Am I nailing it every day so far? Absolutely not. Am I working like mad? Hard yes. Do I have it all figured out? Not at all, but I'm figuring it out as I go with the help of my team.
I don't know if I will be a millionaire one day or not. To be honest the idea had never occurred to me, but to have someone say "I can't, or I won't" pissed me off. My dream has always been to have financial freedom. I'm not there yet, so for right now, it's time to work (even if it is like a crazy person and I feel like I'm losing my marbles).
Maybe you're in the same place? Maybe someone is planting seeds of doubt in your ear? Acknowledge what you need to, and then block the noise. You may need to block them completely if it's being done out of malice.
Remember: when someone wants to atom bomb your dreams... its not you, it's them. They are only showing you their own limitations, so if your dream is to one day be a millionaire (or anything else for that matter), then I believe you will be, and you should to!
Now get after it...
Til next time - S.
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